a few weeks ago i was in philadelphia for my good friend dave's wedding. the wedding was a great place to meet up with my 3 roommates from my last two years of college, neal, dave and qiuwei.
after neal, q and i sat down and started reminiscing about dave (we actually freaked q out by telling him that he would almost certainly have to give a speech, since he was dave's roommate for 4 years) we realized that dave hadn't asked any of us to be in the wedding party. now, from the outset, i don't mean this to be a "tut-tut why didn't dave ask us" complaining blog entry. what it got me thinking about was friendship, and how easily we can become distant.
honestly, dave and i haven't really communicated that much since we graduated, and i think that's also true of dave and q, and dave and neal. however, it's weird to think about how close we were back then, and how so much can change so quickly! of course, we're all still friends, but somehow really not that close.
i guess what was so befuddling was to look up and realize that i didn't really recognize anyone in dave's wedding party, despite the fact that we were friends for all 4 years of college. was there really such a separation in dave's life between us and them? i guess we all have our distinct group of friends.
anyway i can't exactly pinpoint what is bothering me about this, but i know i don't like it! but of course i'm very happy for dave, for kirstin, and i was so happy to be there. all i know is that it must be tough being the bride and groom, making decisions that might make people like me miffed... can't please everyone.